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Dear, my so-called parents.
Read this or else you would far more ignorant than I have surmised. If you consider yourself so intelligent, read this.
For years I have tolerated your mental and psychology abuse. I cannot do so anymore. I am sick of you constantly degraded and threatening your children. You will never make your children do what you want them do by threats. I understand that you’ve been raised in an Asian based society and culture, but in America this simply does not work. Implanted in you are social stigmas that were based on your culture and upbringing. Though that is what you were taught long ago, it is obsolete in this time and age.
I do not listen or respect what you say to me simply because you give me no respect nor do you respect any of your children’s wishes. Sure, you have be able to offer us little petty items of value but you do not allow us to move on in the overall bigger picture. Have you realized that none of your strategies in parenting have worked?! You have been doing all this time. Is what would be referred to in psychology as Authoritarian parenting. This is characterized by imposing of rules and expecting obedience; restrictive and punitive (high on punishment), There is little verbal exchange between children and the caretakers. The result is that when the children grow up, they become socially incompetent. Meaning they do not understand how to interact with the world socially. This is the way you’ve been trying to raise us for all this time. For the first 10 years of our lives. Everything we’ve known from you was based on threats and punishment. You know what is another result of this? Your child will end up hating you for not allowing them to act with their own will. Also, your kids will grow up without learning how to act as an independent person.
What I want you to start doing is to start using Authoritative parenting style. Which is characterized by demanding and responsive; set rules, but still are able to be open for discussion, independence with limits.
Be able to communicate with me as if I was another human being. Not your pet or item in which you have complete control over. You will never have complete control over me. You can only help guide me in the right direction. Controlling is not parenting, Guiding is.
As to how this applies to what happen today, you were barking commands and criticisms when I wasn’t doing anything majority incorrect. You were yelling at me, I will not respect whatever you’re saying if you’re yelling at me. Do you think anybody would respect what another person is saying when that person is yelling at them? I refused to say anything in the car because I was angry and frustrated at you for the sheer amount of ignorance that came out of you. That’s why I was trying to look for a piece of paper in the car. I did not want to talk to you.
If your child wishes to get a job, do not impede him, encourage him. You cannot just deny what he wants to do. Nor deny him the ability to interact with the world. You might be find without any contact with the outside world for days at the time but I’m at the time period at when communication with my fellow human beings is completely necessary.
Furthermore, what is with the ridiculous nature of not allowing me to drive the extra car when nobody is using it!? Literally everyone in the age range is allowed to drive and transport themselves, this is completely backwards parenting. And you don’t even try to ask for advice from your friends. If you even have them anymore.
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Dont get angry so much about it. There's nothing much you can do but to let your frustration go. Your world right now is in their hands. The only way is to patiently wait for the day you'll break free.
Last Sunday, the same situation happend to me. This car in front of me, some fucking retard, break in the middle of the damp highway to let another car go. First of all, you dont do that. you speed up or switch lane, especially when theres another car close behind you (me). So my dad flipped out and yelled at me to stop, i knew i couldnt stopped in time so, coming very close to the end of the car ahead, i switched to the left empty lane. I made a safe move, and yet my dad continues to yells at me for not stopping earlier. He's a fucking hypocrite for criticizing my driving skills when i acutally can drive better than him.
Sometimes he goes like "I told you not to go above 65 on the highway" and yet he bust 70 to 75, sometimes 80 mph.
....anyways, it not because your parents hate you to not let you drive a car, you just need to build more trust with them...
btw...
this doesnt just happen in an asian family, its everywhere. To my opinion and experience, we asians in America have it easier than most people...well in some cases.
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